It struck me forcibly on Friday morning when The Times came, that I have never been in the 'in' crowd. As a teenager I lived out in the wilds of Lincolnshire and played the organ at the Methodist Chapel in what was a very Methodist village (I am speaking of during and just after the Second World War). I had a large group of friends and we had village 'hops' organised by the vicar - we all danced to a three piece band made up of three slightly older chaps. My friend and I were 'band followers' and went on Saturday nights one week to Lincoln to dance in the Co-op Hall and the next week we would go to a village called Wasp's Nest (I promise you that is its true name) in the wilds of Lincolnshire. Here , with the local youth, we always felt we were really sophisticated compared with them! But of course sophisticated is an easily misinterpreted word.
When I married my husband and I were both interested in classical music - we both played instruments - flute and piano respectively in the days before we got into Early Music. So again 'pop' passed us by. My son came along and by the time he was eight he was learning the Double Bass and it was obvious that he was destined for a life of music and he studied it (and got an A) at A level. He read music at University and when he was home he listened all the while to modern classical music. When he was around sixteen he and I went together to the Queen Elizabeth Hall in London to see Stockhausen conduct the first performance of one of his pieces. I know, because I asked him recently, that it was one of the highlights of his early life.
But then, when he left home, my husband and I got heavily involved in Early Music and together with friends formed an Early Music Group and went around the Midlands playing. So now, in my eighties I watch programmes like Pointless and as well as knowing nothing at all about Football, which always features heavily, I also know nothing at all about pop music, who sang what, who had an album in which year - it is all gobbledegook to me. And when, on Fridays in The Times Caitlin Moran does her top ten things about who is in the news, most of them concern somebody in the limelight for pop, modern culture, society and the like - I have never heard of any of them. There is a whole section of society that has been left out of my life and it is a bit late now to do anything about it.--