tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post6889819894733388828..comments2024-03-28T17:44:17.403-07:00Comments on The Weaver of Grass: Growing old (dis)gracefully.The Weaver of Grasshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13947971556343746883noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-62205476490441386072021-09-20T08:44:17.742-07:002021-09-20T08:44:17.742-07:00You lot are my inspiration - many many thanks to y...You lot are my inspiration - many many thanks to you all.The Weaver of Grasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13947971556343746883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-54587576585386229202021-09-20T05:28:49.644-07:002021-09-20T05:28:49.644-07:00Two funny stories were told to me Pat. I wasn'...Two funny stories were told to me Pat. I wasn't there so don't know if they're true. An elderly friend's mother died, telling a joke, so she tells me. Sitting there holding court, getting to the punch-line, then lights out! Everyone always wondered what the end of the joke was, so the story goes. Another eccentric acquaintance told me how she resigned from teaching. Fed up with the principal, she told him in no uncertain terms that she was leaving, and was more than happy to do so, the happiness expressed in a couple of joyous cartwheels in front of him, not wearing knickers she said. That was about twenty years ago. Now you'd be had up for all sorts of indecencies I guess. She certainly was an eccentric character. but a bit too full on for most I'd think! Pam, Australia.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-38181140990328586392021-09-20T02:54:31.796-07:002021-09-20T02:54:31.796-07:00Your title made me smile Pat and the bit about dec...Your title made me smile Pat and the bit about decorating your walker. You could always hand a multitude of bags on the walker and then be known as the local 'bag lady'!! My mum who is now 95 and can hardly walk even with her walker is facing many hard life changes and is finding it difficult to accept that after a very active life is now almost captive in her little flat. She has always been a fighter and will carry on to the bitter end but this old age thing is not something you can 'get on top of' or reverse and she is finding this hard to come to terms with which is making her a little bit bitter and argumentative with everyone. We do what we can to help but we cannot rejuvenate her.<br />I wish you well and all I can say is to keep going with the walker and any exercise you can do even though it is an effort as it keeps the muscles from wasting as quickly...oh and like you say enjoy every day.wherethejourneytakesme2https://www.blogger.com/profile/01331935561823130257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-2541834190774773522021-09-20T00:19:14.285-07:002021-09-20T00:19:14.285-07:00I think you do well - hope I can be like you if I ...I think you do well - hope I can be like you if I get to 89.<br />Just realised thats 23 years away - which is exactly the time we had at the smallholding - need to make sure to enjoy every day as the years go quickly nowSue in Suffolkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13166036914348424622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-85359645878888918532021-09-19T20:49:08.185-07:002021-09-19T20:49:08.185-07:00I am slowly but surely beginning to feel the effec...I am slowly but surely beginning to feel the effects of age. My hips hurt, my legs get tired easily, and occasionally I prefer to sit down and do nothing rather than get on with tasks. I'm fighting it.Cro Magnonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06840670227576695352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-36426080478490022382021-09-19T18:03:15.654-07:002021-09-19T18:03:15.654-07:00We can live a long active happy life but at the en...We can live a long active happy life but at the end we have to accept our upcoming loss. We grieve for our own loss. Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17996243850279671523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-61284707848369430402021-09-19T18:01:34.572-07:002021-09-19T18:01:34.572-07:00Living life as you choose sounds perfect to me. A...Living life as you choose sounds perfect to me. A friend living in Marblehead, Massachusetts every morning (Spring, Summer and Fall) rows his wooden boat along the coastline and sketches scenes along the way. He's 82 and robust with no plans to stop rowing and sketching.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14473063249106111719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-81192877398731671722021-09-19T15:12:46.510-07:002021-09-19T15:12:46.510-07:00Catching crabs at 89 is something to boast about.Catching crabs at 89 is something to boast about.Tom Stephensonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05979590950587415840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-8577668620277580492021-09-19T15:10:42.917-07:002021-09-19T15:10:42.917-07:00I so agree with Elsie.
Wendy (Wales)I so agree with Elsie.<br />Wendy (Wales)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-61422141767917124472021-09-19T15:02:51.248-07:002021-09-19T15:02:51.248-07:00Your blog gives me inspiration and comfort.
I appr...Your blog gives me inspiration and comfort.<br />I appreciate that you write so candidly of your daily life.<br /><br />ElsieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-80054328265030366432021-09-19T13:51:17.310-07:002021-09-19T13:51:17.310-07:00Good advice for us, Weave!Good advice for us, Weave!Ellen D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03776803182673252265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-47649628187232838302021-09-19T13:48:45.547-07:002021-09-19T13:48:45.547-07:00You have always been my friend and inspiration
Yo...You have always been my friend and inspiration <br />You get on with things <br />I think I’ll never reach 89 but if I did , I’d be u John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-45288311167999853942021-09-19T13:37:44.671-07:002021-09-19T13:37:44.671-07:00Anonymous - I can't help it if you read my pos...Anonymous - I can't help it if you read my post as you do. I am definitely aware of my own mortality and I havb every right to be - I want to leave my affairs in order so that there is as little trouble as possible when I do finally pop my clogs. All I can say really is that if you don't like what you read then don't read it.. You are under no obligation ever to read my posts.<br /><br />Derek - dare I say that there ave been hot days when I have done just that.<br /><br />Of course I have days when I feel 101 but I also have days when I feel 71 so in the end it evens out.<br /><br />Thanks you dear friends - keep blogging! And BB Send my good wishes to your husband and tell him I hope his walking soon improves - I know just how frustrating it can be.<br /><br />The Weaver of Grasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13947971556343746883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-27667197806402057072021-09-19T12:48:23.538-07:002021-09-19T12:48:23.538-07:00Thank you for this post, I think you are wise. I&#...Thank you for this post, I think you are wise. I've just lost my dear godmother last wednesday, quite unexpectedly, she was 74, and your words resonated with me. Life is now, definitely.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-9590258360461204582021-09-19T12:41:44.953-07:002021-09-19T12:41:44.953-07:00Thank you for this very special post and for all o...Thank you for this very special post and for all of your posts. And thank you especially for teaching me how to grow old. I am 69 and the examples you set and words you share are wonderful!Bonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17738727252267659979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-37750520558743866652021-09-19T12:39:13.066-07:002021-09-19T12:39:13.066-07:00To anonymous
What a useless moralising piece of wo...To anonymous<br />What a useless moralising piece of work you are. Best if you keep away from Weavers blog if you don't like what she writes. All her friends on here are more than happy to share all her thoughts and writings. Hopefully you might be able to understand things a bit more when you reach her age. The rest of us on here hold her in MUCH respect so clear off with your unwanted opinion.<br />From nicer Anonymous<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-45858221071127149882021-09-19T12:18:14.724-07:002021-09-19T12:18:14.724-07:00Just do as you're doing Weaver, keeping as act...Just do as you're doing Weaver, keeping as active as you can both mind and body.. I laughed at Derek's comment about no knickers because when I broke me arm I didn't wear any for 3 years, because I couldn't push them off and I couldn't pull them on! It's only in the last 3 years I've been able to manage them. My arm never healed, so there are women who walk around knickerless, I never even felt cold, I suppose I got used to it. I didn't walk today, gave in and had an after dinner nap!Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18332613086771922320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-51993766407442274562021-09-19T11:16:48.487-07:002021-09-19T11:16:48.487-07:00I found this depressing. Quite often these days y...I found this depressing. Quite often these days you make comments on your mortality.<br /><br />You're 88, if you live to be 100 you have another twelve years to live. That's a long time to still be able to appreciate the dawn of a new morning, birdsong, good food, chats with friends or family, a good book, beautiful music. Try to appreciate the things you can still do and enjoy instead of dwelling on the things you can't do. There are many things I now can't do but I do try to appreciate all the little things in my life.<br /><br />I know that if I start thinking about my demise or how long I've got left it makes me feel down then I make others feel depressed.<br /><br />When you wake in the morning be grateful for a new day, many people won't have that. <br /><br /> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-55433847276107086482021-09-19T09:38:05.636-07:002021-09-19T09:38:05.636-07:00Food for thought indeed. Derek has a great idea! ...Food for thought indeed. Derek has a great idea! though it might be a bit draughty :) When my late ma-in-law was married, she and her husband honeymooned in Blackpool. After booking into the hotel, they changed from their wedding finery into more casual clothing and went for a walk along the Prom. THEN ma-in-law (to her horror and her husband's hilarity) realized she'd forgotten to put her knickers on!!! Knowing my straight-laced m-in-law, she would have been mortified.<br /><br />I think we can only take life a day at a time, and live it to the full. My husband is struggling with his health at the moment, finding walking very very difficult, but we still go to Antique Fairs and he says if he didn't do that, he would just sit down and wait to die.Bovey Bellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13117332471600275100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-88032854673623669172021-09-19T09:11:03.046-07:002021-09-19T09:11:03.046-07:00I suppose that if you wanted to behave disgraceful...I suppose that if you wanted to behave disgracefully in old age you could walk Priscilla round the block wearing no knickers. No one would know, but you might feel a tad rebellious for a while.Derek Faulknerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05140363868104172311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-68793675745228038642021-09-19T08:58:59.922-07:002021-09-19T08:58:59.922-07:00Like the others here have said, this is a great po...Like the others here have said, this is a great post and food for thought. I was thinking about doing what I want to do a lot this year; first during the 6 weeks that I was unable to work because of my eye operation, and then once I was back working and dealing with a situation at work that had been bothering me for a long time.<br />In the end I won't regret NOT having done this presentation or that document for a client, but other things that I always postponed because of work!<br />Speaking of graceful, you are a model for all of us, Pat! I've said it before and I'll say it again.Librarianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05704656564078750607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-70105235539280118472021-09-19T08:58:35.349-07:002021-09-19T08:58:35.349-07:00Derek your reply reminds me of one of the sisters ...Derek your reply reminds me of one of the sisters in law of my first marriage. My first husband had seven sisters and the last one to die lived in sheltered accommodation. She didn't arrive for breakfast one morning and when the warden went to see where she was she found her - she had died in her chair and that Dylan Thomas poem lay open on her knee.The Weaver of Grasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13947971556343746883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-54915859860743017042021-09-19T08:54:56.164-07:002021-09-19T08:54:56.164-07:00Growing old disgracefully is a lovely thought and ...Growing old disgracefully is a lovely thought and I wish I had the opportunity, but (and it's a big but), like me I expect you were brought up not to cause scenes or make a spectacle of yourself, so going against the grain is a big change in our character. But it's wonderful to think about what I would do to be disgraceful. Joan (Devon)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-53127546052582791072021-09-19T08:47:07.988-07:002021-09-19T08:47:07.988-07:00What an amazing lady - to be helping her son fish ...What an amazing lady - to be helping her son fish for lobsters at 101! I am certainly not made of such stuff even if my own mother lived until 102. However, I don't think she was entirely happy during her last two years but she didn't really have anything that she really wanted to do. So important.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06826501916623305535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-76533740236327330252021-09-19T08:26:50.008-07:002021-09-19T08:26:50.008-07:00Being able to do something we enjoy each day makes...Being able to do something we enjoy each day makes all the difference.the veg artisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04029588460808570133noreply@blogger.com