tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post5820888157219201319..comments2024-03-28T05:56:52.754-07:00Comments on The Weaver of Grass: Sad NewsThe Weaver of Grasshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13947971556343746883noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-50253874845951760912018-07-23T14:32:16.241-07:002018-07-23T14:32:16.241-07:00Thank you for writing this. I was out of town and ...Thank you for writing this. I was out of town and missed John's post until today, but like everyone else who follows Going Gently, I'd been dreading it for weeks, hoping that he would report in that everything had been settled and that all was fine. I don't know him or you, but I read you both and have felt a kinship over the years (was very sad for you when your farmer died, and have admired how you have gone on). <br /><br />Sometimes, especially like now, when there is so much greed and cruelty on display daily, you two in particular have been a welcome reassurance that there still are kind, strong, well-meaning people in this world. If it were possible to erase the heartache that John is experiencing now, there would be people everywhere reaching out ... Rafe's Hotelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06898852529318083316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-21732455755964507662018-07-19T13:20:00.155-07:002018-07-19T13:20:00.155-07:00Weave, well spoken. We share each other’s ups and ...Weave, well spoken. We share each other’s ups and downs. I truly care for you all! GabsGabrielle Howard Genglerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14944071372544950237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-47082947152046658642018-07-19T12:08:00.592-07:002018-07-19T12:08:00.592-07:00Isn't it good that we can all add our thoughts...Isn't it good that we can all add our thoughts. All the good will has got to do some good.The Weaver of Grasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13947971556343746883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-82092240382896874752018-07-19T10:42:57.723-07:002018-07-19T10:42:57.723-07:00Well said Pat!Well said Pat!Theresa Yhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16226952474166295533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-44067735088313331502018-07-19T07:26:08.403-07:002018-07-19T07:26:08.403-07:00My husband passed away nearly 30 years ago and I t...My husband passed away nearly 30 years ago and I totally agree that you learn to cope but you don't ever lose the loss.Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07308484107697183925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-81533424165804014542018-07-19T07:15:04.846-07:002018-07-19T07:15:04.846-07:00Thank you for this post Pat. I agree with every wo...Thank you for this post Pat. I agree with every word. I just wish there was some practical way we could help him through this, but there isn't is there? Saying that we know how he feels (as I did) means nothing really, for when you are the one going through it, you don't believe that anyone else has ever felt so devastated, empty, and worthless. At least John has all his readers, and we do love him, even though we've never met. Strange isn't it, that I am more upset about this than a recent family divorce. Blogland is wonderful and scary at the same time. BlessingsLesley UKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12690616440969201231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-4216446259480039832018-07-19T06:01:31.312-07:002018-07-19T06:01:31.312-07:00lynney62 - You speak of "two people deciding&...lynney62 - You speak of "two people deciding" to end a relationship in divorce; that is not always the case. I had no "choice", I had no "voice", it was a decision that was not mine, yet changed the rest of my life forever. I always say, I got through it, but I'll never get over it. And now I have to go through the rest of my life continuing to see my ex-husband (of 26 years) because we have a child together, and what he is is going on to do without me with his new family - until death do us part. It's like a wound that can never heal, and you can never quite move on. It is a DIFFERENT pain than losing a partner to death, of course, but It is still immense and not necessarily lesser. I grieve for and with John; I sense he is a sensitive man of great feeling, and he has a long road ahead, but I know he will make it through...liparifamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15205794075118001139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-73312438185236877172018-07-19T05:48:34.901-07:002018-07-19T05:48:34.901-07:00Well said, Pat. Thanks for putting what we all fe...Well said, Pat. Thanks for putting what we all feel into such eloquent words.Rosiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11707124572356999782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-27686596135575843442018-07-19T05:14:26.341-07:002018-07-19T05:14:26.341-07:00My heart aches for this wonderful human being........My heart aches for this wonderful human being.....we will all hold him up. My husband passed just 2 months ago and I still cry every day. Linda Metcalfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14706004604567190617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-78375985912150619152018-07-19T05:03:51.501-07:002018-07-19T05:03:51.501-07:00I considered taking this post down after thought b...I considered taking this post down after thought but John has asked that I keep it up and says he will read your comments soon, when he feels a bit stronger, so thanks for replying. I think we have provided him with a good solid wall of support both here and on his blog.The Weaver of Grasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13947971556343746883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-13438957389752187562018-07-19T03:10:36.498-07:002018-07-19T03:10:36.498-07:00I presume the same comments have already been made...I presume the same comments have already been made on John's blog.Derek Faulknerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05140363868104172311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-80363968765847664322018-07-19T01:20:20.186-07:002018-07-19T01:20:20.186-07:00Thank you for writing that Pat, sums up exactly ho...Thank you for writing that Pat, sums up exactly how I feel.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10787732343048847565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-14120509728577393682018-07-19T00:40:26.048-07:002018-07-19T00:40:26.048-07:00A wonderful post Pat. Perfectly said. I am sure...A wonderful post Pat. Perfectly said. I am sure John knows how much he is loved by his readers, and I hope that it helps ,if just a little. XFranceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02576715462615744934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-74646167012186102972018-07-19T00:39:31.870-07:002018-07-19T00:39:31.870-07:00Your post, once again, expresses so well what we a...Your post, once again, expresses so well what we all feel about our blogland friends and supporters. I don't know John or get to see his posts but I wish him comfort from his family and friends, and better days to come.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06826501916623305535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-82309363721509034942018-07-18T22:24:10.407-07:002018-07-18T22:24:10.407-07:00As always Pat you strike out with such wisdom to o...As always Pat you strike out with such wisdom to offer comfort to John as he goes through this sad time. He has many friends in this land of writing, may they keep him strong.thelmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00934860502828923562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-81934869738264747792018-07-18T21:56:33.527-07:002018-07-18T21:56:33.527-07:00You have put it so well. I was so sad for John wh...You have put it so well. I was so sad for John when I read his post. Not the retirement he had planned. I wonder if he may decide to stay where he is now or if that isn't possible?Janicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12465050441931715127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-28003326480581996412018-07-18T20:43:46.745-07:002018-07-18T20:43:46.745-07:00Well said; you speak for all of us!Well said; you speak for all of us!Cro Magnonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06840670227576695352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-69636988831602613542018-07-18T20:27:43.541-07:002018-07-18T20:27:43.541-07:00I just have one thing to add to my above comment.....I just have one thing to add to my above comment.....When a couple who take the vow to love and honor forever decide they can't uphold that vow, it is very painful to decide to part. The difference lies in when a loved partner dies, without any chance to change that ending, even that beloved "vow" remains. For me, that is the worst pain and the huge difference between divorce separation and death separation...Because the one left behind had no "voice" or decision making in that separation. Yes....this has been a bit of a "rant"....All I can say is that many folks spoke to me after my 2nd husband died and said "I know how you feel; loss is hard"....and those folks had gone through divorce and had a choice when I had no choice at all. lynney62https://www.blogger.com/profile/13495408937759095258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-45099221249603121802018-07-18T20:24:35.241-07:002018-07-18T20:24:35.241-07:00I love reading what my fellow bloggers have to say...I love reading what my fellow bloggers have to say, but I don't always comment. Today, over at John's blog, you can really tell how many people are really out there, reading, supporting. You, as others have already said, put this perfectly, Pat. I hope he finds comfort in all of the comments, as I hope you did when you lost your farmer. -Jenncoffeeontheporchwithmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17618627688821849806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-64117937086886677902018-07-18T18:49:36.139-07:002018-07-18T18:49:36.139-07:00I really love reading your blog everyday and reall...I really love reading your blog everyday and really enjoy it.........I just have to say one thing.....going through a divorce is, in my thinking, completely different than losing your loved one to death. I am 74 yrs. old and have buried 2 husbands.....buried...never ever to see the sight of them on this earth again..Neither of them "wanted" to leave...life happened.I think there is a huge difference from two people deciding to end a living relationship and moving on, to have a living relationship end by death when neither person has any control over that or ever wants it to end..........Please.....there is a huge difference. So many people speak with condolences like it is the same...........It is not. Yes, I read John's blog and I feel sympathy for him for the situation he is now in, but please, do not try to tell me it is the same as losing a beloved partner by death! Until you live it...you have no idea! lynney62https://www.blogger.com/profile/13495408937759095258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-26553240027791988622018-07-18T16:36:36.747-07:002018-07-18T16:36:36.747-07:00I agree with everything you say Weaver. I feel a p...I agree with everything you say Weaver. I feel a personal connection with you and with John, from reading your blog posts. Like you I lost my dear hubby recently (Nove. 2016 is recent for grief) and my friend's husband shocked her by leaving her at about that same time and yes, the grief is there for her, much like a reaction to death. John has inner strength and friends who love him and he will persevere.Terra https://www.blogger.com/profile/04396481049075747940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-61993569345985925892018-07-18T15:26:15.795-07:002018-07-18T15:26:15.795-07:00Well said Pat. Thank you for being there for John...Well said Pat. Thank you for being there for John and all of us. I hope you know you are greatly appreciated. It was heartbreaking to hear John's news. I've been through a divorce and it was the most difficult thing I have done, especially with two little ones. I am glad we can all be here to support John and let him know he is cared for. Internet friends are special and mean so much. Bonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17738727252267659979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-54576213365536587982018-07-18T14:57:50.185-07:002018-07-18T14:57:50.185-07:00None is loved more. We will keep lifting him.None is loved more. We will keep lifting him.Joanne Noragonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16601010208310707750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-16329205456409256822018-07-18T14:54:04.370-07:002018-07-18T14:54:04.370-07:00Blogland is a special place and you have captured ...Blogland is a special place and you have captured this wonderfully in your words today.wherethejourneytakesmehttps://wherethejourneytakesme2.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-280582018791422638.post-51328334793361574582018-07-18T14:48:04.668-07:002018-07-18T14:48:04.668-07:00Beautifully put with sincerity and voicing what so...Beautifully put with sincerity and voicing what so many of us feel ...Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00603534128933028981noreply@blogger.com