Friday, 5 July 2019

Telling it how it is.

Home truths, sometimes not easy to take.   But yesterday, as we met our friends in our favourite Italian in Kirby Lonsdale, one of them said he had something he wanted to say but was rather embarrassed to say it.   I have known him for forty five years and he is one of my dearest friends - I told him that of course he had to say it.  What it amounted to was to tell me that when they came to stay (and they do quite often and I really look forward to their coming) the single beds in the spare room were no longer comfortable as the mattresses had lost their strength.   He always went home with a bad back.

He is quite right.   I can't remember when the beds were bought but it is at least thirty five years ago.  Alright, so they have always been 'spare beds' but we have always been people to have folk staying and on the one occasion (when our bedroom was being decorated) I tried to sleep on one I had to go back to our double bed because I found the bed uncomfortable.   So point taken. 

So this morning, neighbour (friend H), who is very good at researching things on her computer and also takes 'Which' magazine spent time looking into the whole idea and then after lunch (Derek - our usual Friday lunch out - Salmon, braised fennel and saute potatoes) came round with details.   The upshot is that two single mattresses are ordered and will arrive some time next Wednesday.   So it you are reading this P you can't say I haven't acted on your advice!


Bovey Belle said...

Indeed, nothing lasts for ever but you have had good use from them! Just as well your good friend let you know, though he probably felt terribly embarrassed about it at the time.

JayCee said...

I read somewhere that mattresses should be replaced every x number of years (can't remember how many) but it seems an expensive process. You may be blessed with more frequent visits from now on!

Sue in Suffolk said...

Sleep a night in my bed being the equivalent to walking a mile in my shoes!

Bea said...

I haven't had the gumption to say the same thing, unfortunately. However, it is worth sharing as a bad night's sleep/sore back is best to be avoided.

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DUTA said...

It's his back not your mattress. There are people who sleep on a hard surface as they feel this is beneficial to their spine.

Simon Douglas Thompson said...

I'm just going to demand other people buy things for me from now on!

Derek Faulkner said...

Generally, a mattress used on a daily basis, as well as being turned every couple of months, should be replaced at around 7-8 years old.

angryparsnip said...

Some things one forgets about, especially spare beds !

Ursula said...

Sorry, Duta, wrong conclusion. Regardless of the state of his back, the old mattress will be soft and sagging, giving no support whatsoever. Which is the reason some people, as you say, prefer to rough it on a hard floor.

Hats off to you, Weaver, to take no offence, instead acting on your friend being honest.


crafty cat corner said...

It's surprising how an unsuitable mattress can make your back ache. My mattress is quite new but I'm sure it's no good for my back, trouble is they cost quite a bit and who knows if the new one would be any better.


Heather said...

Years ago I suggested that my husband and I should sleep in the spare bed to see what it was like. Not before time, as it turned out. It was so uncomfortable that we bought a new mattress for it. If the bed is not used regularly one just doesn't think about it. What a good thing your friend plucked up the courage to mention it to you. All your other guests will be so grateful to him!

Thickethouse.wordpress said...

Wonderful that your friend had the courage to mention this to you and you listened and immediately investigated and fixed this problem. Sleep is so important! Friends are so important!

Cro Magnon said...

We have two mattresses on our bed, which brings the height up a bit. The top one was quite expensive, and was not very comfortable, so I changed them around and now it's far better. It's all a matter of preference. I hope your new ones are good.

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The Weaver of Grass said...

Thanks to you all. My friend and his partner are coming to stay in a month so I shall no doubt get an honest report on the new mattresses (if it is a bad report too bad, they will just have to grin an bear it).

lynda said...

My dearest friend has the same problem with her guest beds, but I'm always too cowardly to say is worse than the other! Like sleeping on a board. I shall have to bite the bullet and tell her...

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