One of my mother's favourite sayings if my father was getting all 'het up' about something was -
Patience is a virtue.
Catch it if you can.
Seldom in a woman
But never in a man.
This was never true in my experience. I have had two very happy marriages and both husbands were the absolute model of patience. Models sometimes to the point of being irritating.
'How much longer are we going to have to wait?'
' Calm down - it won't happen any quicker if you get in a state about it.'
You will gather from this that the person who is impatient has always been me. Even now that I am well-retired and really have no need to get in a rush about anything, I still need things done yesterday.
Today I had a business meeting with someone who I feel is going too slowly with the job he is doing for me. All the papers were checked and double checked (and triple checked if I am honest) but I still got 'in a state' = a feeling I have experienced all my life when a situation is out of my control.
Does it help to feel like this? It most certainly does not.
When I got into the car to drive into town I couldn't find my disabled parking badge. I searched my shopper and my handbag, went back indoors and looked in one or two other handbags and then, because I was running out of time (another 'failing' - I must always be spot on time), I drove in without the badge, parked a little way out of town (no change for the parking meter) and walked in - not easy with my poor mobility.
Going to the bank after the meeting I found my badge - it was in my handbag all the time. In my rush I had overlooked it. To cheer myself up I went into my favourite restaurant and had scampi, chips and peas for lunch, followed by a cafetiere of Italian coffee. By the end of the afternoon I had more or less calmed down apart from tinnitus, which always attacks fiercely when I am upset about anything.
These were feelings I recognised from my working days, when I was in a position of responsibility and things had to be well-organised and working properly. The difference this time being that I am not doing the organising in the main - and that, I suppose, is the flaw in my armour. I still like to be the one 'in charge'. Oh dear, we never stop learning about ourselves do we, whether the information be good or bad.