Do you make snap judgements? Do you meet a person once and either relate to them or not - either think 'yes, I could make a friend of you' or 'I certainly don't want to see you again!' And, if so, are these judgements really fair? In fact this judgement does not necessarily have to go as far as meeting a person. It can just be seeing a person.
This happened to me this morning and it set me thinking about just how fair this is. I suppose we are all guilty of doing it. I'll tell you what happened.
Friend W always very kindly takes me into our little town on Tuesday mornings. We go to the Post Office, pay our newsagent's bills, do a bit of shopping and then meet in our favourite Coffee Bar for a drink and a natter (we are pretty good at that) .
This morning a family came and sat on another table and had what looked like an all day breakfast (it was 10.30am - they could easily have been up here on holiday - in any case I could always fancy an all day breakfast at any time but because I watch my weight I suppress the urge). I don't think W noticed them as she had her back to the table, but I couldn't help noticing them and their behaviour.
They were quiet, they were well behaved, their table manners were perfect - so far, so good. But one thing marred the whole scene for me. The man was absolutely festooned in gold. He wore gold earrings, he had gold bracelets on both wrists and a gold watch as well, he had four or five gold chains of varying thicknesses around his neck and a gold ring on almost every finger.
Now why should that lead me to make snap judgements? For all I know he could have looked at me and thought how dowdy I was, sitting there with just one thin gold chain around my neck; or maybe he had an aversion to the colour of my hair, or my hairstyle. He is entitled to his own views, but my judgement of him rests entirely on the quantity of gold he had about his person. I didn't even hear him speak - they spoke quietly and got on with eating their meal.
Should we try not to make snap judgements like this? Are we being unfair to people or, as they never know in instances like this, does it matter? What is your view?