Wednesday, 10 May 2017

Wednesday

At the moment the days seem to be passing in a bit of a blur.   Suddenly I am very tired most of the time, which is not like me at all.

Today, in a bid to perk myself up, I took my daughter in law to the garden centre and while there we had a bit of lunch in the cafe.   It is a beautiful day today - the best of the year so far; the sun shone and there was little wind.   But even so, when I arrived home I went and lay on the bed and slept for a couple of hours.  Not like my usual self at all.

Suddenly Spring is busting out all over.   There is even May blossom (hawthorn blossom) out on the sheltered hedges (quite often we are almost into June before that happens here in the North of England).

Yesterday I packed a box of cut glass items and when I have finished on my blog I intend to pack a box of Minton china.   One job a day is my motto.

Seven weeks today since the farmer's death.   On Sunday we intend to scatter his ashes back on to the farm land where he has spent all his life.  Another milestone.

 

33 comments:

Rachel said...

Sleep is great. I love it. Sleep is the great healer and the mop and the reviver.

Heather said...

It's good to sleep, especially when your body asks you to. I even had a nap before lunch today. It would have been my husband's 89th birthday yesterday. I hope the weather is fair on Sunday for you all. One day at a time.x

Mac n' Janet said...

We have a nap every day, we call it happy hour

justjill said...

Listen to your body. Its fine to sleep. Its the brains way of switching off for a while. Part of grieving. So glad the weather perked upx

lynda said...

I think you are doing amazingly well....let yourself get some extra sleep so your body and brain can recover from the stress.

Gardener Fisher said...

We scattered my fathers ashes in the river Dart n Dartmoor. He was born and grew up in Dartmouth before going off to fight the Japanese in Burma. My son paddled in the Dart as a toddler so it seemed a nice place to see him off. Death is very final but memories are not, we always keep someone of the person we loved about us, which is comforting I think.

angryparsnip said...

If you are tired you are tired, physically and mentally. Rest when you need to.
I think you are doing amazing. Tack care of yourself.
Big hug to you and Tess.

cheers, parsnip and thehamish

the veg artist said...

Well, we all think you are doing amazingly well!

Midmarsh John said...

I think your present tiredness is quite natural. With all you have been through lately you have just had to keep going. Now your body needs to recuperate a bit. I know when my parents passed away I was on 'auto pilot' through all the arrangements but afterwards it almost felt like a very weary anti climax for a while. As justjill wrote, listen to your body. Give it some time to recover between enjoying the company of friends and a bit of good weather.

Thickethouse.wordpress said...

My husband died ten years ago. At first I did everything I needed to,all the paperwork and donating some things, and then after some weeks, I couldn't do any more. I was very tired. I think this is not so unusual. Be kind to yourself....Take care of yourself. You are doing so well! How fitting that your husband's ashes will be on the land he loved and cared for for so long.

Beverley said...

Good idea re the ashes to put back into the land he loved. You will go through phases of tiredness and lack of oomph. All part of the grieving really.Having a nap is a great idea. Best Wishes.

Helsie said...

Emotional upheaval makes you very tired. Do what your body tells you. Sleep is good.

Frugal in Derbyshire said...

Sleep if you need to dear Weave
Gillx

Joanne Noragon said...

A perfect resting place. And, sleep is good.

Gail, northern California said...

You've suffered a terrible tragedy, be extra kind to yourself.

Karen Reittinger said...

I have learned to listen to my body. I now nap most days. My day goes better when I do.

Virginia said...

Dea Pat, of course you're tired - that's not surprising, it's been a helluva few months - way before your dear husband's actual death. Do be kind to yourself, I found there were surprising jolts; the day I felt wonderful, then plummeted, probably because I'd been so pleased and thought I was over the hump.... well the hump whacked me! What a fitting place to lay the Farmer to rest, part of the land he loved so dearly. Thinking of you. Hugs.

Cro Magnon said...

I quite expect your body needs sleep much more than you imagine. Stress can hide itself away, and sleep can cure. If you feel tired accept it; it's normal.

Maria said...

Never feel guilty for napping Weaver. It helps reduce stress.
Greetings Maria x

thelma said...

Well it is a new day, and the sun is shining hear in Normanby so I expect it is shining in your corner of the world. Enjoy the day, sleep when you need to and the Farmer is at rest amongst his fields. X

Sue said...

Farmer would be happy to know that he is going back to the land he loved.

Penhill said...

Rest when your body tells you to.I have a nap most afternoons and I am younger than you.

Tom Stephenson said...

I love an afternoon nap. It is the most delicious escape imaginable. I think you are doing very well Weave.

Yorkshire Pudding said...

How wonderful that the farmer's ashes will be returned to the land that sustained him all of his life, land that he knew like the back of his hand.

coffeeontheporchwithme said...

I think spreading the farmer's ashes is perfect. We spread my father's ashes along the rail line where he spent many hours as a child watching trains, his real passion, and we spread my mother's ashes along the riverbank of her childhood farm. It's a very restorative process. As all the rest have said, listen to your body and have a nap. Take care,-Jenn

Librarian said...

Like others have commented before me, your tiredness is not unusual given the circumstances, and if your body and mind demand some rest, give in when you can.
After my husband died 7 1/2 years ago, scattering his ashes near where his Dad's had been scattered 25 yesrs earlier was the best and natural thing to do. As you say, another milestone.

Jacqui Fenner-Dixon said...

I truly believe our body let's us know what it wants, and due to your circumstances, I'm not surprised you are needing more naps. Scattering the Farmer's ashes will certainly be a milestone and I hope you have a lovely sunny day for it.

Linda Metcalf said...

How appropriate for the Farmer. Sleep when you need. Refresh the body. You are doing splendidly.

Devon said...

You have had a lot on your plate over the past 7 weeks... planning, paperwork, cleaning out and packing, as well as the emotions of grieving which can be surprisingly exhausting. I agree with Linda, just rest when needed. Grieving and changing house and home are very large tasks for anyone.

Simon Douglas Thompson said...

The hawthorn is blossoming at work, and it does spread a nice aroma about when the wind is from the right direction.

The Weaver of Grass said...

Thank you to you all.

Bovey Belle said...

I'm not surprised that your body is feeling in need of a rest - you have been through a lot and now you are packing away the memories, and preparing yourself to spread the Farmer's ashes on his beloved farm. It was two years before I felt up to dealing with taking mum back to spread her ashes in Hampshire, and even then it wasn't easy. Don't be too hard on yourself. Rest is good.

thousandflower said...

Oh, Pat, what you are going through is exhausting. Let yourself nap when you need to, sit and just do nothing now and then (okay, I'm not very good at that myself). Let your being heal. You are in my thoughts.