I thought it was time that I did a post to make you think and - hopefully - express an opinion, and a timely subject has arisen.
In the past week I have heard of five couples who have 'split up'. All have children; three of the couples are unmarried, so there will be no divorce proceedings; with the other two couples there presumably will be. All the children involved in the split up (9 children in all) are under the age of ten.
I don't just find this sad, I also find it quite appalling. Please don't think I would like couples to stay together ' for the sake of the children.' I am sure we all know damaged adults who endured miserable childhoods because their parents were trapped in an unhappy marriage with no way out.
It is just the whole ethos, since the advent of the Pill and with it a surge forward in the emancipation of women which seems to have created a society in the Western world where men and women (often so young that in my day they would have been called boys and girls) enter into a relationship lightly, have children when they choose to do so and then end the relationship and start another one, just as lightly.
Yes, I know, I am generalising. There are many couples who seriously consider their position and discuss what is best for the children before they separate when they can see no alternative, and who take seriously the role of absent parent.
But the couples I have heard of in the last week are all very young. In three of the cases they still live with a parent (who often does much of the child care) and in the other two the couple live in rented accommodation which has now been given up and the girl - and the children - have gone back to live with Mum and Dad.
And I do just ask - what kind of children are we rearing for the next generation? I know quite a few children who have step/step Mums and Dads as their parents have changed partners several times - each time producing at least one sibling.
Coming, as I do, from a happy, stable background I find it very hard to come to terms with the chopping and changing that takes place these days.
Am I old-fashioned? Have I lost touch with the modern world? Please tell me if I have. I may be in my seventies but I do try to keep abreast of modern thinking.
Of course, marriages are rarely, if ever, made in heaven. All relationships go through doldrums, maelstroms, differences of opinion and - sometimes - quite insurmountable problems.
But what - and I am asking you directly - makes splitting up so much more common these days? Is it the speed with which society is racing towards the future; is it because it is so much easier these days to speak ones mind and to aim to have a life which fulfils our personal goals for satisfaction; or is it maybe that the grass on the other side of the fence is always greener? I would be interested to know what you think about this issue.